No one actually needs to rally for the wonders of an orgasm when there's enough research—as psychologist and sex therapist Mary Jo Rapini explains—that the tremor-inducing release of serotonin and endorphins can boost the immune system and decrease stress and anxiety. But when there's still a wide "pleasure gap" to bridge today—the term describing the slim number of women who experience orgasms during sex in relation to men—the main question is how. Below, we consulted advice from across the scientific spectrum, from medical studies to sexperts to sex therapists, on ways to enhance the female orgasm and feel connected to your partner without giving up your primal right to come. A study in the journal Hormones and Behavior shows that an increases in the "love drug" oxytocin helped couples have more intense orgasms. It doesn't require any supplements for a big boost in the hormone, though, as your average cuddling, hugging, kissing, and bonding activities can do the trick. Make sure to carve out more bonding time with each other or extend your foreplay sessions before sex to enhance your sexual performance.
For those of you who don't have a daily Google alert for the word "orgasm," you might have missed the fact that today is National Orgasm Day. It's probably not coincidental that it's also Hump Day, am I right? But luckily for you guys, I do have that Google alert that's my job, folks! There's another universally simple trick for self-pleasure: This one's on your bed for those who prefer dry land.
Want stronger, better orgasms? This exercise will get you there
The expectations surrounding giving and having orgasms can make people feel inadequate or even strangers to their own bodies, especially for those who have never had an orgasm. Everybody wants to have better orgasms , longer orgasms , faster orgasms , more intense orgasms , g-spot vs. Being able to get your partner or yourself to climax over and over again has become a standard qualifier for good sex versus bad sex.
Achieving consistent, mind-blowing orgasms is kind of like winning the lottery. Sounds amazing, but basically a pipe dream, right? Not necessary: There are little tricks that can help you learn how to have a better orgasm. Yes, more frequently, too. Hell, it might even improve your relationship.